Couples Therapy
You are committed to your relationship, but there’s a disconnect between you and your partner or spouse.
Certain conversations just aren’t happening, or if they are, you can’t seem to get through to the other side without feeling hurt, angry or misunderstood. Try as you might, your best attempts fail.
It’s hard to feel seen, heard and connected to the person you share your life with.
A window to personal transformation.
In relationships, our deepest needs and longings show up along with our greatest fears. This process is magnified for committed couples.
It may seem counter intuitive, but couples therapy is not just about strengthening your relationship with your partner, it’s also about deepening your relationship with yourself.
In couples therapy you will develop the skills necessary to listen to both your inner experience as well as your partner’s—because to truly connect with the one you love, you need a clear understanding of what’s happening inside of you too.
Opening a space to listen to the shadow.
Oftentimes, deep hurt from the past shows up in our relationships.
Old traumas impose themselves on our present experience and sometimes prevent us from seeing the love that is available here and now.
Throughout couples therapy, I will serve as your guide, helping you and your partner gain clarity and develop the communication skills that will help you navigate the challenges of modern life more successfully.
A place to heal and grow.
As I sit with couples, I am humbled by their dedication, commitment and willingness to do the work necessary to learn to love well—with compassion and trust. Adrienne Riche, poet and activist, beautifully describes why this work is so important. This is why I am so committed to helping couples grow.
“An honorable human relationship — that is, one in which two people have the right to use the word “love” —
is a process, delicate, violent, often terrifying to both persons involved, a process of refining the truths they can tell each other.
It is important to do this because it breaks down human self-delusion and isolation.
It is important to do this because in doing so we do justice to our own complexity.
It is important to do this because we can count on so few people to go that hard way with us.”
If you’d like to build a more loving and supportive relationship with your partner, I’m here to help.